Have you met someone in your life or probably yourself who seems to like to do things on their own? This isn’t about being lonesome or being self-reliant nor does it connect with selfishness. I’m talking about someone, who is used to do things on their own.
We see a lot of people, who managed to get there because of their parents, family, friends, talent, good looks and so on. They happen to be pretty great, right? They have opportunities none of us can even dream of or out of our very own reach.
There are also people, mostly average, normal people who happens to have talents and skills but they don’t have as much given opportunities. In fact, to get where they want to go they have to do it on their own effort and unlike the previous statement, their journey takes longer than those who have easier access to networks and opportunities.
Now, sometimes, these type of people are probably your classmate, who happens to be not the brightest in class but prefers to do his or her homework or exams without the help of their fellow classmates. These are the type who thinks that “they wanted to do things on their own effort because they believe that such pays off and that their talent or skill is something worthy.” They’d rather get into a job position on their own skills in the interview and resume than have any backers at the company.
But for those people like these, what if, one day, someone either you like him or not would come by and say “I can help you get there.” What would you say?
Some probably don’t want to. Due to the fact that they have done everything on their own and because of their pride and belief that they can make it on their own, you’ll probably get insulted because you might think I can get there because of him? Sounds like an extra baggage. Of course, you have to be careful on how the process is all about, what if this person would make you do something illegal just to reach your dream.
Look, I know that many, myself including, believed that we can get into that job, or answer your homework, or reach our dreams all on our own. Still, that is a good thing, a good sense of morale. But that doesn’t mean we’ll slip opportunities on their own. Sure, we might feel insulted that someone would want to be your backer or support but don’t you think that’s an opportunity too?
Think about those people. Those people who actually get where they are? There are probably thousands of people who happens to be better than them but why did they reached there? It’s simple…through networks. Networks of people.
Sure, it sounded weird for the self-reliant, determined, hard-working, I can do it all on my own effort kind of guy. But even if you managed to reach that destination because of somebody’s help or network or capabilities still to remain where you are is all on your own.
Even if you get the role you need with the help someone in a TV show there are still critics who can judge what your capabilities but think about it, at least you got an opportunity to know what capabilities you have. Even if you got into an audition because of your friend, landing the role is still upon your own effort.
So what about you? What do you think?